The Harsh Reality of Adults Still Waiting for Their First Kiss

The only way to overcome your fear is to face it

Hogan Torah


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This morning I opened Twitter and read this:

Vulnerability moment: is anyone on here past 25 and still haven’t had their first kiss? Just wondering.

The tweet got a few positive responses from other people 25 and older who’ve never been kissed. They were all very supportive of each other and confirmed that it was perfectly normal. They assured one another it will happen someday.

I wanted to say something but kept my mouth shut. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being 25 and still waiting for your first kiss. But it doesn’t matter what I think.

Are you okay with never being kissed?

I remember having anxiety about never finding someone and going through life alone. All the kids on the network sitcoms that were supposed to be 9 years old had girlfriends. I wasn’t even a teenager and lay awake at night worrying I’d never have a girlfriend.

Everyone wonders when they’ll meet the one. The anxiety from the fear of being forever alone gets worse as the years roll by. Your friends are having kids, but you still haven’t locked lips. The timeline you had in your head keeps getting pushed back. It can’t be a good feeling.

Say your potential soul mate does show up. How are they supposed to fall for you if you can’t look them in the eye? Your body language says you’re not interested while your mouth says nothing. She starts dating your friend because you blew it. Causing you to retreat back to your cave of solitude and continue your lonely existence.

Thank God I went to jew camp.

Truth or dare

As a pre-teen my mom enrolled me the North Valley Jewish Community Center day camp. I loved it. We went to amusement parks, swam every day, ate Otter Pops and once every three weeks we went camping in Malibu for three days.

Camping meant playing truth or dare at night. The counselors organized the game and all 60 of us played at the same time. Rules were simple. Someone was dared to kiss someone else…



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